How to Talk to a Loved One

How to start the conversation

Abuse, neglect and financial exploitation may not be obvious. However, there are often warning signs that you or a loved one may be at risk. It’s never an easy conversation to have, but it may help save you or a loved one.

Questions to ask:

1. Is someone taking or using your money without your permission?
2. Are you afraid of anyone?
3. Is anybody hurting you?

Additional follow-up questions to ask:

Have you had a partner, family member, or trusted caregiver that:

  1. Is someone embarrassing you by calling you bad names or putting you down?
  2. Is someone looking at you or acting in ways that scare you?
  3. Is someone destroying, damaging or giving away your property?
  4. Is someone hiding details about your finances or property from you?
  5. Is someone controlling what you do, who you see, or where you go?
  6. Is someone controlling your money or legal documents without your permission?
  7. Is someone using your money in ways that do not benefit you?
  8. Is someone making all of the decisions without your input?
  9. Is someone threatening to hurt you?
  10. Is someone shoving, grabbing, slapping or hitting you?
  11. Is someone ignoring your physical, emotional or medical needs?
  12. Is someone taking money that you need to pay your bills?
  13. Is someone acting like everything is fine when others around you say you should be concerned?