How to Talk to a Loved One

How to start the conversation

Abuse, neglect and financial exploitation may not be obvious. However, there are often warning signs that you or a loved one may be at risk. It’s never an easy conversation to have, but it may help save you or a loved one.

Questions to ask:

1. Is someone taking or using your money without your permission?
2. Are you afraid of anyone?
3. Is anybody hurting you?

Additional things to consider:

Have you had a partner, family member, or trusted caregiver that:

  • embarrasses you by calling you bad names or putting you down?
  • looking at you or acting in ways that scare you?
  • destroying, damaging or giving away your property?
  • hiding details about your finances or property from you?
  • controlling what you do, who you see, or where you go?
  • controlling your money or legal documents without your permission?
  • using your money in ways that do not benefit you?
  • making all of the decisions without your input?
  • threatening to hurt you?
  • shoving, grabbing, slapping or hitting you?
  • ignoring your physical, emotional or medical needs?
  • taking money that you need to pay your bills?
  • acting like everything is fine when others around you say you should be concerned?

If you are concerned, please get help!